Membership

Membership

Membership in Wish costs 150 SEK per year. You can only become a member by meeting someone from the board in person. This usually happens in connection to a pub meeting (munch) or a party, and the reason why we want to meet you in person is that we are eager to keep the association’s separatism and only allow persons to become members who are part of our target group: ”women, trans and/or intersex who live with their identity on an every day basis and has an interest in BDSM and fetichism”.

The term ”woman” can encompass persons who has been identified as female at the time of birth (AFAB=assigned female at birth), or who has come to insight about this identity later in life. The term ”trans” can include a variety of different identities such as, but not exclusively, non-binary, transmasculine, transfeminine, transwoman, transman and transsexual. The term ”intersex” can encompass persons who at some point in their life has been declared to have a transgressive biological gender. The expression ”live with their identity on an everyday basis” excludes persons who have been identified as male at the time of birth (AMAB=assigned male at birth) and who still to a large extent live with this gender identity and or/ its external expressions in their everyday life. If you are AMAB and do occasional cross dressing and/or have a transgressive gender identity that is not manifested in your everyday life there are other clubs, Wish is not for you.

In short, our separatism can be described like this: If you are AFAB: welcome! If you are AMAB: welcome if your gender expression and your gender identity is usually not that of a cis-man. One can also describe our selection process like this: if you are AMAB, you have sometimes a little bit more to prove to become a member of Wish.

The background to this demarcation is that Wish is not a ”queer club” in a general sense, but a separatist association that excludes cis-men and AMAB:s who most often appear as cis-men. This may mean that certain AMAB:s who does not see themselves as cis-men but who generally has that gender expression are denied membership in Wish. This is not to be mean but to be able to guarantee Wish’s members a separatist space for the exploration of gender and sexuality beyond the borders of heteropatriarchy. Through this target group description we claim our right to define this space in the way we feel the most secure with.

We like to point out, however, that each and every request about membership is evaluated individually, and that we hope that no one feels refrained from getting in touch. We understand that everyone cannot be open with their identity and gender expression all the time, and that one can be in different stages of the development of one’s gender identity. Whenever you get in touch with Wish you will be met with respect and competence, just as we presume that you show consideration for our choice of separatist demarcation.

In short, our separatism can be described like this: If you are AFAB: welcome! If you are AMAB: welcome if your gender expression and your gender identity is usually not that of a cis-man. One can also describe our selection process like this: if you are AMAB, you have sometimes a little bit more to prove to become a member of Wish.

The background to this demarcation is that Wish is not a ”queer club” in a general sense, but a separatist association that excludes cis-men and AMAB:s who most often appear as cis-men. This may mean that certain AMAB:s who does not see themselves as cis-men but who generally has that gender expression are denied membership in Wish. This is not to be mean but to be able to guarantee Wish’s members a separatist space for the exploration of gender and sexuality beyond the borders of heteropatriarchy. Through this target group description we claim our right to define this space in the way we feel the most secure with.

We like to point out, however, that each and every request about membership is evaluated individually, and that we hope that no one feels refrained from getting in touch. We understand that everyone cannot be open with their identity and gender expression all the time, and that one can be in different stages of the development of one’s gender identity. Whenever you get in touch with Wish you will be met with respect and competence, just as we presume that you show consideration for our choice of separatist demarcation.

Please e-mail info@clubwish.se if you have any questions, or to schedule a first meeting!